ADOLESCENT CARE: Help Me Help My Teenager

Are you having troubles with your teenagers? Do you really understand their feelings? Are you really right every time you scold them? Why teenagers turn to rebellion with their parents? Why do they engage themselves in drugs and alcohol? How can you help them? There is so much to say when it comes to Teen angst. I will help you understand your teenager today. I will discuss a few points that will help you.

Every generation of teenagers shows different behaviour due to changes in environment and also, due to technological advancement. The world influences teenagers in many ways. Technology, media, drugs, alcohol, religion and peers are some reasons that affect the growth, personality and character of a teen.

Most parents nowadays are having a hard time in understanding their teens. They tend to compare the teens during their times which is a 360 degree twist with our time and parents should avoid this. Teenagers hate to hear this. 'When I was your age' It causes and instant shutdown in communication.

Let's first talk about why a teenager becomes a headache to a parent.

Normally, a problem of a teen involves physical and emotional. When we talk about physical problem, this includes weight, height, and everything physical that can build insecurities with respect to others. For example, obesity; this lowers the self esteem of a teen which leads to depression. A little problem develops drastically and can be a reason why a teen becomes a problem to their parents.

• Negligence and favouritism. This is one of the main reasons of rebellion that a parent doesn't seem to see. A parent should learn and practice how to divide their time and be fair to every child. A child (whether a teen or not) just wants your undivided attention to know they are valued.
• Trauma. Studies show teens that experience bullying during their childhood have a higher risk of alienation and becoming emotionally unstable even in small problems. A parent should be be present and aware of what's happening in school and in the community. Often I see the 'school will handle it' attitude. Sadly, this is not the case.

• Peers. They are one of the most influential people around your teen. At the teenage age, they don't seem to communicate and trust their secrets to their parents, and so, they often tell their friends who in their own innocence give them the wrong idea on how to approach a problem. It is so true that "birds with the same feathers flock together." It is your duty as a parent to set the social construct for your child to ensure that the peers they have around them are ones approved by you.
• Community. Naturally, if you are living in a place where there are many negative influences, the likelihood of your teen finding peers in that environment and engaging in negative behaviour is at an all time high.

As you can see, it involves the parents, peers, and their childhood experiences. We should now focus on these three subjects and give solution to help your teen. First, you should know when your teen needs you. You should not just be present during their happy days, make sure that you are also there in their darkest hour. Here are some few tips on how to make your teen responsible.

• Make sure communication is open between you and your teen. It is always good to hear their stories and joyful experiences. But if they are unusually silent, don't hesitate to ask them. Sometimes, teens prefer to be asked about it. This will show your concern and care to them. In case they don't talk to you, just give them time and space. They will eventually tell you. One of the easiest places to talk is during meal time or on a long drive.
• Listen. For parents, be more approachable. If your children did make a mistake, don't scold and shout at them. If they develop a fear on telling you the truth, they will hide everything in the future from you.
• Build happy moments and experiences together. You have to build a love bank with your teen so when it comes time to have a stern chat you have all this love to fall back on. If the love bank is low your stern chat will fall on hostile ground.
• Appreciate every single good deed he/she does. It doesn't matter if it's big or small stuff.
• Time. Parents should give time to their family. Your presence is enough for a teen to conclude that you are always there to support and listen to them.
• Spirituality. When you teach your children to look inside themselves they will grow and become closer to their spiritual guidance whether it be God, Meditation or just a renewed sense of self understanding.
• As early as possible, teach your children the value of family so that they will not long for love and care from other people who are out to take advantage of them.
• And lastly, shower them with love, care, and support.

As a parent myself, the biggest thing I have learnt is to Never be shocked by what your children ask or tell you. A shocking response excites a child because they see you react. Remain balanced and aware and Act - Don't react.

I hope this gives you a little idea on how to handle your teen. I know I have only tackled a few and you have more problems and solutions to talk about. Feel free to share by commenting below and I will help you.

If you want to stop living in the shadows of others and shine your unique talents with confidence and start living again, you need to read Tell Me How To Be Happy.

Source: http://barbaridadesdetotis.blogspot.com/2013/05/help-me-help-my-teenager.html

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